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Six Things I Didn’t Do Yesterday

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Six Things I Didn’t Do Yesterday

Olive and I were eating at Johnny Rockets in Bakersfield on New Year’s Day. She likes to sit at the bar, spin in her seat, and people watch. I do too. An absolutely gorgeous woman walks in with two small children, a boy and a girl. They sit a few seats down from us, meaning they like the bar scene also. My first order of business is to look for a ring. It’s the polite thing to do, right? No ring. Woohoo! The local news shows up with a cameraman interviewing people on the patio. Since the camera was pointed directly toward us, I was trying to...

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The Waiter That Saved Christmas

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The Waiter That Saved Christmas

I went to a small Mexican restaurant after Christmas shopping the other night. I had been there before but not for a few years. I showed up at 7:05, minutes after their happy hour menu ended. I wasn’t there for the beer, I wanted their Chile Verde Nachos, for half the price than the regular menu. Damn, and I barely missed it. The waiter walked over with a basket of chips, and salsa that was about to say, “Merry Christmas,” to my tongue. As he set them down on the table, I slid the menu to him and asked for the regular menu. He asked, “Are you...

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X Reasons To Date a Single Dad with a Daughter

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X Reasons To Date a Single Dad with a Daughter

Let me start by saying I’m not a big fan of those blog titles with a predetermined number of ways or whys. It’s every other post I see in my News Feed, and now I’m contributing to the madness. I’m sorry but it has to happen. Actually, what happened was HuffPost asked me to come up with a couple of reasons why you should date a single dad. As I started writing some ideas down, I noticed that I have no clue what it’s like having a son. I have daughters; two of them. So here are your reasons, Roman numeral style, on why...

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A Moment of Time

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A Moment of Time

Shock and surprise, in the blink of an eye. I’m still a kid myself! This twenty year old guy. Being a father to another human being, living a simple life of wiping and cleaning. Every other weekend she’d spend with her mom. I was a full-time dad, a damn lucky one. Definitely scared, not sure what to do. I got the hang of it as day one turned to day two. Friends are going out to celebrate a birth. I’m staying in tonight to change more diapers. She is my Kiddo, my first love of my life. The only thing she asked was for a little of my time....

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Feed the Children!

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Feed the Children!

I write words. No one pays me and I don’t blame them. The most meaningful things I’ve written, or what I’ve created, have no meaning to you. They’re so important that I put them next to salami sandwiches, bags of chips, and Handi-Snacks. These priceless collections of messages and images are sent secure and private. Even if you were to breach security, you’d have no use. The NSA spy program has nothing on me. Okay, they probably do. Over the years I’ve randomly posted pictures of the lunch notes I’d...

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A Triple Dog Dare

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A Triple Dog Dare

We were active boys. We spent our days drinking from the hose, mooning friends and taking every opportunity to pants each other. We spent most of our lives outside in the real world. We terrorized neighborhoods in the right way. We played guitar, fell out of trees and lit our modified fireworks on the 5th of July. We broke our own bones, ripped apart ligaments and dislocated sockets. We beat ourselves up, we picked at our scabs, we flaunted our bruises and, when we got home, the most loving words bellowed from the kitchen, “GET IN THE...

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‘I Want to Pee Like Daddy’

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‘I Want to Pee Like Daddy’

Two-year-olds aren’t made to be quiet, so when my daughter left the room and a few minutes of silence followed, it caused alarm. When I followed her, I found her atop the step stool with her hands on her cheeks, elbows on her knees with a pout. The most beautiful combination of words rolled out of her mouth like poetry: “I want to pee like daddy.” That was 10 years ago, when I was a 21-year-old boy with a daughter. I wasn’t making much money, but I was making enough to survive. We rented a two-bedroom unit within a...

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My Love-Hate With Online Dating

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My Love-Hate With Online Dating

I contacted my friend Carla, owner of Huckleberry Market on California’s central coast. I needed a quote on roses. I inquired, “How much does 10 dozen roses cost? I don’t need a vase, only stems. And can this easily be carried?” She replied, “You will look like you’re carrying a rose garden and it would be $648 with tax.” That’s the cost of The Girlfriend Experience; 120 roses. Online dating and I have a love-hate relationship. Most online profiles of women I run across, with exception to the...

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The Contagious Disease of Happiness

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The Contagious Disease of Happiness

Though I’m the CEO of my own company, founder of a startup, writer of a blog and coach of a little league team (Go Indians), I will always be dad to my daughters. It’s not a high-paying gig but if I invest time, I get massive returns. I’ve had my own struggles with money, thinking moola was a requirement to be a happy dad. It is not. Being a dad is free. Being a dad is easy. But being a dad is not always easy, and the life balance of being a single parent teeter-totters between my children’s happiness and my own....

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My Journey to a Genesis

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My Journey to a Genesis

I don’t know where to begin. I guess it began with losing custody of my oldest daughter, Genesis. It’s hard to write about how shameful the experience was. It was wintertime, 2009. I lived off the Costco box of Top Ramen to avoid grocery store visits. If I absolutely needed groceries, I’d go at night – right before closing. I did this to avoid any encounters with people that didn’t know I didn’t have her any more, avoiding their question, “Hey, where’s Gen,” because that’s what you ask your full-time dad friend. I lied to protect the little...

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